Your son, despite what he might tell you, needs his parents to advise him, meddle in his affairs, even object and interfere. But “supportive” parents who let their gay kids get away with murder-supportive parents who stop parenting their gay kids because they worry about seeming homophobic if they object to lousy gay boyfriends, choices, apparel, et cetera-aren’t doing their gay kids any favours, either.
Beyond that, even if I can establish that it’s okay to have an objection, or to feel the need to take some action to be supportive for my son, I don’t know what I can or should do. If I had an 18-year-old heterosexual daughter who was in a relationship with a 31-year-old man, I would have exactly the same concerns and objections. I don’t think this is a gay-versus-straight objection. His mother argues that in order to be supportive, we can’t object to this relationship. Yes, my son is a legal adult at 18 and can make his own decisions, but he’s also still in high school. Here’s the problem: my son is in a relationship with a 31-year-old guy.
I am the father of a recently out 18-year-old gay boy.
